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If you’re a first-time mom then you may be terrified and scared right now, I hear you. Being pregnant and becoming a mom can trigger a lot of emotions, It sucks. And who is to blame? The hormones.
Towards the end of pregnancy, you may develop a lot of thoughts about death. Especially if you keep reading horror birth stories or have experienced loss in your family recently. That can play a huge role in making you feel as if you’re going to die after giving birth.
It’s unfortunately quite common and it’s absolutely “normal” to experience these feelings and thoughts of death during pregnancy and after giving birth. You can try to distract yourself and talk with friends and family about it or seek professional help. Talking about it with other people will help you by knowing that it’s just a thought and it shall pass soon.
But, what if you talked about it and these thoughts are still consuming you alive?
Well, you can eliminate these thoughts by implementing a few habits in your day. Follow along and you’ll be surprised how fast these thoughts will vanish.
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Know what triggers thoughts of death during pregnancy.
Has anyone died in your family recently? Do you hear a lot of death stories around childbirth? Do you feel safe in your home? Knowing what triggers these feelings will help you solve the problem and eliminate these thoughts
Remind yourself that death thoughts during pregnancy are normal and expected.
It’s quite normal and common for moms to fear death when they’re expecting a baby. We, as moms, cannot imagine what this world is going to look like for our babies when we’re not around. Who’s going to love my baby as much as I love him? Who’s going to take care of him? Who’s going to wipe away his tears? Who’s going to be there for him in times of sickness, sadness and even joy? No one can ever take my place!
All these thoughts can consume you alive and can increase your anxiety and stress. It’s a rollercoaster for sure. But you have to remind yourself every time you spot those thoughts, that they are normal and that you shouldn’t take them seriously. because nothing bad is going to happen to you or your baby. These thoughts are caused by your unstable hormones. They are there not because they’re true, but because you’re going through a shift in your life. You’re becoming a mom, and that’s motherhood unfolding. Motherhood is quite joyful but it’s also stressful and emotionally draining.
Focus on the moment
It’s difficult to live in the present, but you always have to remind yourself that this very moment you have right now is precious and it’ll never be back again. Live it to the fullest and ignore the negative thoughts you have about the future. The present is what you have and you’re now healthy, safe and happy. And that’s the most important thing.
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Practice gratitude
Being grateful for the things you have today is the best way to eliminate negative thoughts. Look around you, you’ve got countless blessings. You’ve got a roof over your head, food on the table, loved ones around and so many other things that will remind you that you’re safe. Be grateful and let the peace dwell in your mind and your body.
You can only control the present not the future
The only thing you can control is now. The future has never been predictable and it’ll never be. So why dwell on the future when we can be here at this very moment?
Take care of your physical health
A healthy mind can only dwell on a healthy body. Move every day, eat your vitamins and have a healthy balanced diet. Nothing is worth it more than your physical health alongside your mental health. Your body is the temple of your soul and it needs maintenance and care. So be strong and feed your body the food it deserves so that it can feel better and be better in the future.
Do some Yoga
calm your mind and relax your body with some yoga. Take a deep breath and focus on your thoughts. Feel each thought and allow it to leave your mind with each exhale. Repeat until you feel completely calm and serene.
Don’t isolate yourself
We often feel like we need time alone when these thoughts start to creep in. but just do yourself a favour and do the opposite. Don’t feed your negative thought by isolating yourself. You’re already isolated in your mind. Go out and meet friends and family. Talk to someone every day and remind yourself that this too shall pass and you’ll be fine.
Fill your time with hobbies
Find what sparks joy in your heart and do it. It could be anything from painting, making crafts, or learning a new hobby such as pottery. Just find something that can bring you happiness and do it. How’s this going to help with overcoming death thoughts? It’ll do that by bringing you closer to your authentic self. And teaching you how to enjoy the simplest things in life and live in the moment. That way, you’ll no longer think about what could go wrong in the future. You’ll simply be, in the present.
Stay away from social media
Social media can be distracting and depressing. Everyone seems mental and depressed nowadays and this surely will make things worse for you. Stop the urge of scrolling endlessly through your socials because this will consume your energy in the wrong way and you’ll end up tired and irritated for no reason. And then the bad thoughts will creep in again. Take your time to walk in nature and listen to the birds chirping. Take a deep breath and think about the incredible life ahead of you. A life that’s full of joy with your little blessing that you’re growing inside of you.
Takeaway
Pregnancy comes with sorts of emotions and ups and downs. It can get really hard sometimes to control one’s thoughts and emotions. But this doesn’t mean that you’re going to be stuck there forever. Just remember, this too shall pass.